Jessica Bialkowskilifestyle

August & September: In My Secret Life

Jessica Bialkowskilifestyle
August & September: In My Secret Life

Well, things certainly have been busy around these parts. Not only do I have a job now, but we had a whirlwind trip back to Sydney for 5 days for my boyfriend’s sister’s wedding, which was hectic to say the least.


So as mentioned, we went back to Australia for basically a long weekend for my boyfriend’s sister’s wedding. He was a groomsman so we definitely had to be there, but our trip was so short because he couldn’t take any more time off work, so the whole thing happened in the span of a week. We were jetlagged the entire time we were in Australia because we were so busy seeing friends and family, but that meant we actually bounced back pretty well once we got back to Toronto because we didn’t even adjust to the time difference properly.


Unfortunately my parents were already overseas by the time we got there so I didn’t get to see them, but we had a lovely dinner with my brother and sister-in-law, who is heavily pregnant with their first child, and we managed to squeeze in lots of catch ups with friends and eat at as many of our favourite places as we could while we were in town.

And of course there was the wedding which was a beautiful day and the whole thing went off without a hitch! I definitely don’t recommend flying halfway around the world and back again within a week, but we had lots of fun and I’m glad we did it. Plus I got to stock up on my favourite tea and some vegemite which I missed way more than I thought I would.

The other major change that’s happened is that I got a job! I’ve spoken before about how I used to work in the music industry a few years back, and when I changed to an industry with a more formal dress code (and more money) I ended up in a style rut because I wasn’t happy with anything I could wear to work. Well as it turns out, despite my efforts to get out of my rut and figure out my work vs personal wardrobe situation, I ended up getting a 1 year contract working back in the music industry here in Toronto!

Honestly it’s the only career path I have ever felt even remotely passionate about, so although I definitely didn’t see this coming, it feels really good to be the industry that makes me happy again, even if it may not be forever. I most certainly don’t have it all figured out, and what I studied at uni definitely didn’t put me on a straightforward career path (the way something like nursing or graphic design would) so I don’t know where I’m going to end up, but I’m going to make the most of this opportunity while I have it. And of course this means I don't have to worry about having a professional work wardrobe for the moment because the music industry doesn't work like that – yay!

The only other thing worth mentioning is that I got a haircut and colour before the wedding and although the guy did exactly what I wanted with the rest of my hair, he completely fucked up my fringe. I showed him a bunch of photos of what I wanted but somehow ended up with something completely different that’s probably going to take a year for me to grow out into what I was after. I know it’s a pretty common thing to have a bad haircut experience but I've been pretty lucky up until now and I just wanted to say that it sucks.



I’ve been to a few gigs recently which has been fun, especially when they’re at a venue that’s walking distance from where I live. I saw Kendrick Lamar in August and he was just as incredible as the other times I’ve seen him, I just wish the audience at his shows was a little less immature. I also saw The Weeknd this month and even though he’s changed pretty dramatically as an artist and I think his last album, Star Boy, is easily the least inspired and least interesting of his career, it’s also his most commercially successful, so I guess I’m in the minority. I hate to be one of those “I liked it before it was cool” people because that’s pretty insufferable, but his first few albums were some of my absolute favourites and it just sucks personally when an artist you love stops making music that you love. But he’s not mine and I can’t tell him what to do so there you go.


I also saw Nas & Lauryn Hill play a double headline show which was seriously good. I’ve seen Nas a bunch of times over the years and he’s never failed to impress me, but it was my first time seeing Lauryn Hill. Outside of her work with the Fugees she really only has one proper solo album, which is almost 20 years old now, but it’s just as incredible now as it was when it first came out. Because of that she doesn’t exactly tour often, and I imagine she’s gotten sick of playing the same songs year after year so when she sings them live she rearranges them with an extensive backing band and gives them more of a jazz feel, which I thought was incredible, and I’m so appreciative of the fact that I got to see her live.

In terms of new releases the main one I’ve been playing on repeat is Sleep Well Beast by The National who are one of my favourite bands and I love and adore them endlessly. They can do no wrong in my eyes and if you’re not already a fan you’re missing out. Brand New also released a new album which is their first in 8 years. I’ve been listening to them since I was an emo teen and they’re one of the few bands that has endured and is still relevant for me today. I really hope they announce a Toronto show soon!



I don’t normally have much to say when it comes to TV but I am SUPER into the Netflix Marvel series right now. I’m not into comic books generally so I don’t know anything about the stories of these characters outside of what the shows cover and what my boyfriend tells me when I ask questions, but he has watched all of them and has read a lot of comics too. We decided to watch Daredevil together because he hadn’t seen the second season, and after that I was hooked so we watched Jessica Jones and now we’ve just finished watching the Defenders. 

Basically if you know as much as I did a few weeks ago (i.e. nothing) there’s Daredevil, Jessica Jones, Luke Cage and Iron Fist who all have their own Netflix shows, and in the Defenders they all come together. There are actually quite a lot of characters that cross over between the shows when you’re just watching them individually, which is cool. Luke Cage is a prominent character in the Jessica Jones series, for example, so it’s really fun to see everyone together with so much consistency because they’re all the same actors and everything is happening in the same universe under the same circumstances.


Honestly no comic book movies or series have ever gotten me anywhere near as interested as these ones have. I’d say this is partly because they’re Netflix original shows and everything I’ve seen that’s a Netflix original has always been really, really good. I’d also say that when there’s a series of 3 movies that come out once a year I don’t get anywhere near as invested because I can’t remember what happened in the last movie by the time the new one comes out.

Plus TV has a lot more power than movies these days since we can watch 8 or 12 hours’ worth of something in a row, which gives a lot more room for character development and for viewers to get attached. Basically what I’m saying is even if you don’t give a shit about comic books these shows are really good TV and I think anyone would enjoy them.

The only other show we’ve fit in between the Marvel shows is the new season of Bojack Horseman. Also a Netflix original, this is seriously one of the most emotionally challenging and interesting shows around. It’s both hilarious and devastating in equal measure, and it’s incredible how well they’ve managed to strike that balance. My irl bff wrote a really good article about the new season that is definitely worth a read if you’re a fan.