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November & December: In My Secret Life

I hope everyone who celebrates Christmas has been having a nice holiday, and that everyone who doesn't is having a nice time as well! My boyfriend and I had our first white Christmas, and because we don't have any family over here and didn't have anything planned, we had a really relaxed day. We found a list of restaurants that were open and went out for breakfast and then walked home through Trinity Bellwoods Park, which looked really pretty all covered in snow. We Skyped our families and took it easy for the rest of the day and then went to an Aussie/NZ pub called Hemingway's for dinner. They have Pavlova on the menu so naturally we had to have it for dessert since it's such an Aussie summer staple.

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November & December: In My Secret Life

October: In My Secret Life

I hate making a fuss of it or even really giving it much thought at all, but it was my birthday recently and it fell on the Friday of the Thanksgiving long weekend, which was a nice bonus. To celebrate, my boyfriend and I had dinner at Fring’s which is supposed to be part-owned by Drake. Drake must have been held up with something really important because he wasn’t there to wish me a happy birthday, but I’ve still got my fingers crossed that we’ll be friends soon. Rather than worry about surprises, we decided my present would be for us to go to Montreal at the start of November because there’s a Leonard Cohen tribute happening and I’m going to cry my little heart out. If you’ve ever been to Montreal and have any hot tips I’d love to hear them!

October: In My Secret Life

On Being a Slow Blogger

This post has been in the works for probably something like two years now. I'd come back to it every so often, think I had it perfect, and then completely rewrite it. But I think I've finally managed to express myself the way that I want to, so it's seeing the light of day. Blogging has changed immeasurably since I first started using livejournal back in high school in the early 2000s. Whether you’ve had an online space for literally half your life(!) like I have, or if you’ve always been a silent reader, I feel like blogging has enriched my life in so many ways and I know I wouldn’t be the same person without it.

But in all the ways it’s changed, so has my relationship with it, and I want to talk a bit more about that. Of course I only have my own experiences as a frame of reference, and I don’t claim to be an authority on the matter, but I have a lot of thoughts about the way blogging has become an industry and how these changes have influenced me and my blog, and I think it’s important to talk about it. Side note: I went on a helicopter ride to the Grand Canyon earlier this year which is where these photos are from – but back to business!

On Being a Slow Blogger
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August & September: In My Secret Life

Well, things certainly have been busy around these parts. Not only do I have a job now, but we had a whirlwind trip back to Sydney for 5 days for my boyfriend’s sister’s wedding, which was hectic to say the least.

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August & September: In My Secret Life

A Curated Wardrobe: My Way

The notion of having a curated wardrobe, decluttering your possessions, and adopting a minimalist lifestyle is getting more and more popular in the online world these days, and for a long time I didn't pay much attention because I thought it wasn't for me. Although I agreed with it all in theory and I can appreciate it on an aesthetic level,  I also love displaying sentimental bits and pieces on my walls and in my living space, and I have never once found myself daydreaming about a monochrome capsule wardrobe made up of 30 pieces of clothing. It always seemed like there were too many rules you had to follow that don't fit with my lifestyle or personal tastes.

But after looking into it in greater depth and following some great bloggers and YouTubers for a while, I can see that actually, there are no rules, and that it's up to you to adapt the principals of minimalism to your life in a way that works for you, not the other way around. You don't have to be come a hardcore minimalist who counts everything they own and turns it into their whole life. You don't even have to feel comfortable with calling yourself a minimalist, but you can incorporate elements of the lifestyle at your own pace and see where it takes you.

A Curated Wardrobe: My Way

July: In My Secret Life

More news from Toronto! So much has been happening lately but we've finally settled in to our new place and are slowly sorting out some finishing touches. I might do some sort of apartment tour in the future if that sounds interesting to you guys? We also squeezed in a trip to Niagara Falls which was awesome. We're hoping to do lots of travelling while we're here but we figured our priority should be getting settled in before we worry about where else we want to go just yet.

July: In My Secret Life

In My Secret Life: Toronto Update!

I'm very excited to say that I'm writing this post from Toronto because I live here now! Although there have definitely been some hiccups along the way, we're both really happy to be here and absolutely love the place.

In My Secret Life: Toronto Update!

In My Secret Life

Boy, life has been busy lately. Not that I expected anything less, which is why I'm really glad I was able to take some time away from working to sort everything out before the move. We leave on Tuesday, May 30, and we both can't wait to just get over there and get started!

In My Secret Life

On Blogging & Consumerism

I'd like to preface this by saying most people probably wouldn't look at the amount of stuff I own and call me a minimalist, but over the last couple of years I'd like to think I've become a lot more careful with my purchases and that I'm heading in that direction more and more. I now feel a lot happier letting go of things that I know someone else will enjoy more than me. This goes across both my beauty stash as well as clothes and most things that I used to buy a lot of. I'm really not trying to be preachy in this post and I hope it doesn't read that way, but I just want to share my experience and some of my thoughts in case it resonates with any of you.

On Blogging & Consumerism
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In My Secret Life

At the risk of sounding like Debbie Downer, life sure is challenging at the moment. I'm very, very grateful for the fact that part of what's on my plate is planning an overseas holiday which my boyfriend and I leave for at the end of this week, but outside of that things haven't been great. I have never planned my own holiday with so little build up time before, and I feel like life doesn't often just hand you these wonderful things without putting you through some difficult shit first, so that's just where I'm at right now. But there's just a few more days to go and then it's holiday time!

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In My Secret Life